(Video: 2 Steps to Handle Disagreement and Win People Over)
In general, an argument happens when at least two people have a disagreement on a particular matter. When none of parties involved give in, and all parties want to win, the argument will drag on, unless they call it “quit” and just “agree to disagree.”
Now, why would you want to win all the time? Maybe you just can’t stand other people who disagree with you. Whatever the reason, there are certain approaches you can take to be able to handle any argument any time.
All you need are good listening and communication skills, empathy, and a clear idea of the goal you want accomplished.
First ACCEPT.
Your concept of winning should be flexible. You cannot go on living the rest of your life thinking that only your thoughts and ideas matter. Whether you admit it or not, you need other people, one way or another, in order to survive in this world.
You don’t have to agree with everybody just for you to walk away feeling part of the winner’s team. You also do not have to prove that other people’s point of view is wrong and convince them that your argument is correct.
To win in an argument, all you have to do is to compel the other parties listen to you. Accept that everyone’s opinion matters. Listen to other people talk. They will appreciate the fact that you listened and will do the same to you. That is the key.
Give something to get something back in return; then you can go on to likely win them over.
Then ADDRESS.
Get the other person to trust you – you can gain other people’s trust not by talking, but by listening. Let them have their turn to speak, and do not brush aside what they may be trying to say. Once they are done talking, let them know that you understand the point they are making.
It is important that you make it clear to the other party that you respect and value their opinion. However, if you do not agree, make sure that you express your disagreement calmly and with no angst. Explain how differently you see things, and why.
The other person may attempt to cut you off and interrupt, depending on their personality. In a calm manner, tell them that you have given them the chance to speak and express their views without being interrupted; and that you expect to be extended the same courtesy. This will add some sense into the other party. Otherwise, repeat what you said; this time, with a little more conviction and firmness.
Finally, after stating your argument, wait for them to respond. It is important that you are in control of the discussion with your listening skills and temperament.
In general, when the parties disagree, there is a definite reason. Find out what that reason is to be addressed, and you are guaranteed to win any argument you find yourself in.
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