How Can I Get a Date?

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There are a lot of folks who don’t have a clue on how to attract or even get attention from the opposite sex. We’re talking serious business here, for that’s why the world of online dating is thriving big time like Match.com, eHarmony, and OkCupid for instance.

These sites don’t offer the same kind of dynamic interaction that you would normally get by meeting people in real life; however, this can be a blessing in disguised if you aren’t sure what to do when comes to meeting or getting the initial attention in the first place.

Look, not everyone has the killer looks or body that Hollywood projects, but that doesn’t mean there’s no hope for you.

The following steps will help you get attention and keep it from the opposite sex.

Confidence Above All Else

The first thing that you need to do is develop more confidence. Yes, you probably have heard this a million times, but never bothered to work on it.

Write down the things that you like about yourself. Seriously, just write the best things about yourself. If you cannot write down anything, then you have a larger problem, and getting the opposite sex to like you is the least of your problems. Take notes of these things.

Once you have this list, start a list of things you don’t like. This may come easy, but it’s the first step to actually working on some lacking confidence issues.

Investing In Yourself (seriously)

Once you have your list, you are going to want to invest in yourself. That’s right, you will need to take on your own changes.

This starts with exercise, bathing, getting a haircut, reading more books, and changing your path.

Look, if you’re already a Casanova or Cleopatra getting more male/female attentions than you can handle, you wouldn’t be reading this in the first place on how to attract the opposite sex. Invest in yourself. Seriously. Don’t neglect this aspect of upgrading yourself..

Not only should you invest in your physical appearance, and your brain, focus on knowing everything about your location you live in more than anyone else. This will come in handy with the dating.

Practice Some Opening Lines (no pickup lines)

Don’t be cheesy. Everyone is scared of opening up a conversation because they are so used to smartphones, texting, and the likes. Break the habit!

If you can muster up courage to talk to someone face to face, you will stand out, guaranteed.

With that in mind, spend time finding and practicing opening lines. Start with simple things like, “Hey, what’s your story?”, and “Howdy, you seen friendly so I thought I should say ‘hi’.”

Focus and practice saying them in front of a mirror, out loud. Enunciate clearly, so when the time is right, you’re not flustered, and you have said these things thousands of times to be spoken with charm.

The Date (Just Ask)

Here’s the thing most men and even women fail – asking someone out. Whether you decide to go online or you step up to someone in a bar, ask them for a date. Be specific.

Remember the tip above? “Get to know your city”? This is crucial. You need to know the hot spots in your city. This will help with the opening lines.

Think about it. Someone that gets hit on a lot, usually gets asked out to dinner or a movie. Cliche. Boring. And mundane. Throw all that out!

Instead, ask them if they have ever checked out that secret underground dive bar behind a phone booth where you have to enter a different passcode each day? Have they seen the historic side of the city? What about that cool hole-in-the-wall antique store that you discovered that sells mystical hundred years old relics?

First you intrigued asking these, then make it more of a casual get-together invite than date, for a “date” implies pressure will be placed on both parties to make sure everything goes well on a date.

If they seem less than interested, don’t fret and most importantly, don’t be creepy needy. Move on. In the world of dating, it’s a number’s game.

Once you do get on the date, have fun, live a little, and enjoy the moment!